Start With an Honest Conversation

Talk first of all, which seems like the simplest suggestion ever made. But then most couples refuse to do just this! No finger-pointing or criticism here; simply an honest discussion of what's happened and how you both want things to be. In some cases, talking can clear the air completely.

Get Out of the Bedroom Routine

Many people get stuck in their routines when it comes to having sex. They always do it at the same time, in the same place, in the same way, and after some time, that boredom is going to kill your sexual desire. Try mixing things up for you two; perhaps take a weekend off and do something fun together.

Work on Emotional Connection First

Sexual connection normally follows after there is an emotional connection between two people. If you and your partner have not been close recently, then that lack of connection will be evident in your sex life too. You need to build some connection prior to sexual intercourse.

Consider Professional Support

It is never embarrassing to seek professional assistance, and many London-based couples do just that. Having an intimacy coach for men will be helpful in cases when one partner experiences a disconnection from oneself and their desire, or when he/she feels shut off or blocked. In some cases, external insight may provide the needed perspectives, those which are difficult to gain from the inside looking out. The idea here is not about repairing what has been damaged.

Be Patient With Each Other

Intimacy can never be restored in a day. Things can be uncomfortable at times, with perhaps a couple of false starts thrown in. This is perfectly fine. The important thing is that you are here, putting in the effort. It doesn’t matter whether you do so perfectly.

FAQs

Q: Is it normal for sexual intimacy to decrease over time in a long-term relationship?
Yes, very normal. Most couples experience this at some point. It does not mean the relationship is failing.

Q: How do I bring up wanting more intimacy without making my partner feel pressured?
Keep it gentle and personal. Focus on how you feel rather than what your partner is or is not doing. Timing matters too, do not bring it up mid-argument or right before bed when you are both tired.